"DUDES WITH FEELINGS"
Broadly speaking, we know that men struggle expressing their feelings more so compared to women. The reasons for this are profound, and as a result, male voices are underrepresented in polyamorous spaces. It is true that most content creators are women. Our page gets vastly more engagement from women in staggering numbers. Jes urges me to create more, post more, and for the love of God can we start a men’s group?
Work and parenting responsibilities have stood in the way, not a lack of desire. I’ve reflected at length about my experience as a man, peer support sessions with men, and popular representations of masculinity. Now that the Spring semester is over, the time is now.
Here’s the plan: a monthly support group for men to talk about their experience. Yes, we will be talking about feelings. That’s the whole point, because we don’t do this enough out in the world. We need a space. Here we are invited to share what’s going on in our polyamorous lives–the thrills, the struggles, and the gray areas. All Patreon members who identify as a man are invited to attend.
Monthly meetings (dates and times TBD) will go no longer than ninety minutes. Participants will be given a few minutes of uninterrupted speaking time, depending upon how many are present. There will be no “cross-talk”, that is, commenting on other shares or back and forth dialogue. You can double high-five emoji, or say shit like, “Bro, I feel this,” but beyond that we just listen. If participants are open to dialogue, they can comment in the group chat and exchange DMs from there. In these ways, we can start to build community as healthy, polyamorous men.
I am hugely excited to create such a space.
Join our Patreon at the $5/month tier or higher: www.patreon.com/homesliceproductions
- Joe
Work and parenting responsibilities have stood in the way, not a lack of desire. I’ve reflected at length about my experience as a man, peer support sessions with men, and popular representations of masculinity. Now that the Spring semester is over, the time is now.
Here’s the plan: a monthly support group for men to talk about their experience. Yes, we will be talking about feelings. That’s the whole point, because we don’t do this enough out in the world. We need a space. Here we are invited to share what’s going on in our polyamorous lives–the thrills, the struggles, and the gray areas. All Patreon members who identify as a man are invited to attend.
Monthly meetings (dates and times TBD) will go no longer than ninety minutes. Participants will be given a few minutes of uninterrupted speaking time, depending upon how many are present. There will be no “cross-talk”, that is, commenting on other shares or back and forth dialogue. You can double high-five emoji, or say shit like, “Bro, I feel this,” but beyond that we just listen. If participants are open to dialogue, they can comment in the group chat and exchange DMs from there. In these ways, we can start to build community as healthy, polyamorous men.
I am hugely excited to create such a space.
Join our Patreon at the $5/month tier or higher: www.patreon.com/homesliceproductions
- Joe
POLYAM PARENTS COMMISERATION CLUB
Lezzzzzbehonest... being a parent is hard as fuck. I feel like being a single parent, or a parent with a shitty partner, and zero community support, is a special kind of hell that shouldn't be a reality for so many folks. I honestly cannot fathom it. I also can't imagine being a monogamous parent and having to depend solely on one partner for all my co-parenting + adult human/romantic/sexual needs.
BUT. Even in the best of circumstances, being a polyamorous parent still comes with its nuances that can be tragic, painful, laughable, and difficult to process alone.
Due to the amount of need for a group like this I've seen from many recent peer support calls, I'm finally launching this group (which has been an idea on the back burner for a while).
It will always happen the last week of the month, exclusive to Patrons at the 'Conductor' tier, and higher. We will bounce around to different days of the week and times in order to accommodate various timezones and schedules (unless we find one that is universally like-able!) If the group grows in size or shape, we will launch a second monthly meeting at a very opposite time.
These meetings will be structured in a fun but powerful way:
>> They will be lead by Jessica on Zoom.
>> Each guest will receive 5-10 minutes to commiserate about their current trials and tribulations.
>> there will be no cross-talk or advice giving during shares-- only nodding and finger waving as a way of saying "bitch, I feel you".
>> Those who are open to be contacted for further bonding, commiseration, or advice/resource-sharing will be invited to put their contact info in the zoom chat so members may continue unpacking after the meeting with folks who resonated with their situation.
>> Each meeting will end with a brief open floor for folks to share polyam parenting wins/achievements/feel good moments...you know, some Experience, Strength, and Hope shit (shoutout to all my fellow 12-Steppers!)
Sometimes there's just nothing to be done about our struggles, especially within the nature of parenting. This is why I love support groups so much -- sometimes I don't need to 'solve' a problem, I just need to know I'm not alone.
Each month I'll post in this feed and ask folks to "RSVP" by simply commenting on the post. If you'd like to RSVP for March's event (March 31 at 7pm PST), please comment below!
Cheers to everyone surviving another day,
Jes
BUT. Even in the best of circumstances, being a polyamorous parent still comes with its nuances that can be tragic, painful, laughable, and difficult to process alone.
Due to the amount of need for a group like this I've seen from many recent peer support calls, I'm finally launching this group (which has been an idea on the back burner for a while).
It will always happen the last week of the month, exclusive to Patrons at the 'Conductor' tier, and higher. We will bounce around to different days of the week and times in order to accommodate various timezones and schedules (unless we find one that is universally like-able!) If the group grows in size or shape, we will launch a second monthly meeting at a very opposite time.
These meetings will be structured in a fun but powerful way:
>> They will be lead by Jessica on Zoom.
>> Each guest will receive 5-10 minutes to commiserate about their current trials and tribulations.
>> there will be no cross-talk or advice giving during shares-- only nodding and finger waving as a way of saying "bitch, I feel you".
>> Those who are open to be contacted for further bonding, commiseration, or advice/resource-sharing will be invited to put their contact info in the zoom chat so members may continue unpacking after the meeting with folks who resonated with their situation.
>> Each meeting will end with a brief open floor for folks to share polyam parenting wins/achievements/feel good moments...you know, some Experience, Strength, and Hope shit (shoutout to all my fellow 12-Steppers!)
Sometimes there's just nothing to be done about our struggles, especially within the nature of parenting. This is why I love support groups so much -- sometimes I don't need to 'solve' a problem, I just need to know I'm not alone.
Each month I'll post in this feed and ask folks to "RSVP" by simply commenting on the post. If you'd like to RSVP for March's event (March 31 at 7pm PST), please comment below!
Cheers to everyone surviving another day,
Jes