HOW OUR GROUPS WORK:
All Remodeled Love Support Group meetings are structured in the same fun, powerful way:
- They are each lead by either Jessica or Joe of Remodeled Love, and sometimes feature a guest educator as co-host
- Each meeting has a limit of 8 "sharing spaces" and an infinite number of listening spaces.
- Each 'sharing guest' will receive 8 minutes to share whatever is on their heart.
- There is no cross-talk or advice giving during shares-- only nodding and finger waving as a way of saying "bitch, I feel you", or heart fingers to say "sending love", etc.
- Sharing guests can request an optional 3-4 minutes of "Open Floor", where everyone else on the call can turn on their mics and offer commiseration, sympathy, support, advice, resources, etc. The guest is required to be specific about what they are or aren't looking for during "open floor".
- Those who are open to be contacted for further bonding, commiseration, or advice/resource-sharing will be invited to put their contact info in the zoom chat so members may continue unpacking after the meeting with folks who resonated with their situation. Conversations can also continue in the group's private Discord channel.
- Each meeting will end with a brief open floor for folks to share polyam parenting wins/achievements/feel good moments...you know, some Experience, Strength, and Hope shit (shoutout to all my fellow 12-Steppers!)
Sometimes there's just nothing to be done about our struggles. This is why we love support groups so much -- sometimes we don't need to 'solve' a problem, we just need to know we're not alone.
Each month an RSVP request will be posted on Patreon, and you can reserve your spot.
Cheers to everyone surviving another day, and we're glad you're here,
The Daylovers
"DUDES WITH FEELINGS"
MEETINGS: Twice a month (see schedule on Patreon)
Broadly speaking, we know that men struggle expressing their feelings more so compared to women. The reasons for this are profound, and as a result, male voices are underrepresented in polyamorous spaces. It is true that most content creators are women. Our page gets vastly more engagement from women in staggering numbers. Jes urges me to create more, post more, and for the love of God can we start a men’s group?
Work and parenting responsibilities have stood in the way, not a lack of desire. I’ve reflected at length about my experience as a man, peer support sessions with men, and popular representations of masculinity. Now that the Spring semester is over, the time is now.
Here’s the plan: a bi-monthly support group for men to talk about their experience. Yes, we will be talking about feelings. That’s the whole point, because we don’t do this enough out in the world. We need a space. Here we are invited to share what’s going on in our polyamorous lives–the thrills, the struggles, and the gray areas. All Patreon members who identify as a man are invited to attend.
Broadly speaking, we know that men struggle expressing their feelings more so compared to women. The reasons for this are profound, and as a result, male voices are underrepresented in polyamorous spaces. It is true that most content creators are women. Our page gets vastly more engagement from women in staggering numbers. Jes urges me to create more, post more, and for the love of God can we start a men’s group?
Work and parenting responsibilities have stood in the way, not a lack of desire. I’ve reflected at length about my experience as a man, peer support sessions with men, and popular representations of masculinity. Now that the Spring semester is over, the time is now.
Here’s the plan: a bi-monthly support group for men to talk about their experience. Yes, we will be talking about feelings. That’s the whole point, because we don’t do this enough out in the world. We need a space. Here we are invited to share what’s going on in our polyamorous lives–the thrills, the struggles, and the gray areas. All Patreon members who identify as a man are invited to attend.
POLYAM PARENTS COMMISERATION CLUB
MEETINGS: Twice a month (see schedule on Patreon)
Lezzzzzbehonest... being a parent is hard as fuck. I feel like being a single parent, or a parent with a shitty partner, and zero community support, is a special kind of hell that shouldn't be a reality for so many folks. I honestly cannot fathom it. I also can't imagine being a monogamous parent and having to depend solely on one partner for all my co-parenting + adult human/romantic/sexual needs.
BUT. Even in the best of circumstances, being a polyamorous parent still comes with its nuances that can be tragic, painful, laughable, and difficult to process alone.
Lezzzzzbehonest... being a parent is hard as fuck. I feel like being a single parent, or a parent with a shitty partner, and zero community support, is a special kind of hell that shouldn't be a reality for so many folks. I honestly cannot fathom it. I also can't imagine being a monogamous parent and having to depend solely on one partner for all my co-parenting + adult human/romantic/sexual needs.
BUT. Even in the best of circumstances, being a polyamorous parent still comes with its nuances that can be tragic, painful, laughable, and difficult to process alone.
There's Nothing Wrong With You
MEETINGS: Once a month (see schedule on Patreon)
A support group for all women, femmes, and non-men struggling with feelings around their polyamorous identity, their poly-curiosity, and/or their desire to initiate polyamory inside their monogamous relationship.
If you are feeling guilt around desiring polyamory, or frustration with how long the process is taking, or shame around even wanting to dip a toe in, or resentment around your partner not desiring it as much as you do...this is the group for you.
Being poly-curious, or fully desiring polyamory, does not make you wrong or bad, even if you are waking up to yourself inside of a long-term, monogamous relationship. We are all victims of compulsory monogamy, and that means most of us had no way of knowing who we truly are or what we truly wanted out of relationships until this very moment.
You are allowed to be unsure. You are allowed to be a work in progress. You are allowed to be yourself.
Repeat after me: there's nothing wrong with me.
A support group for all women, femmes, and non-men struggling with feelings around their polyamorous identity, their poly-curiosity, and/or their desire to initiate polyamory inside their monogamous relationship.
If you are feeling guilt around desiring polyamory, or frustration with how long the process is taking, or shame around even wanting to dip a toe in, or resentment around your partner not desiring it as much as you do...this is the group for you.
Being poly-curious, or fully desiring polyamory, does not make you wrong or bad, even if you are waking up to yourself inside of a long-term, monogamous relationship. We are all victims of compulsory monogamy, and that means most of us had no way of knowing who we truly are or what we truly wanted out of relationships until this very moment.
You are allowed to be unsure. You are allowed to be a work in progress. You are allowed to be yourself.
Repeat after me: there's nothing wrong with me.